Wednesday, June 06, 2007

Question Time.

First, I have a question for you all. If you moved into a brand new area, and were wanting to find some friends, where would you go to find them?

Second, do you have any questions you'd love to ask me? If so, feel free to do so. :)

4 Nibbles:

Amanda said...

I don't have any tips for getting out and making friends, so I'd be interested to see what other people say. My only suggestion is to get involved with groups that you're interested in (for me, it'd be something like a young person's sewing group, for you, maybe a writer's group?). All good in theory, but does it work.

I'm just wondering whether you've been lonely the whole time you've been in the US, or whether this is a recent thing, or an on and off type thing. I can imagine that moving to a new country where you know next to no one must be really difficult.

Kada said...

That's what I'm wondering too, Amanda. All good in theory...but!

I've tried joining groups/classes in the past, and they didn't work out.

Went back to a writing group last night, and it seemed to be better. Am also going to my intuitive eating group again tomorrow.

I guess all I can do is keep attending, and these people will either become friends, or remain acquaintances. Either way, it's still face-to-face contact, which is a good thing.

Actually, now that you've got me thinking about it...I'm sure the previous groups I've tried, it was ME who had the black-or-white outlook. Make friends or leave. So, when I didn't find bestest buddies within 6-10 weeks of the course, I pouted and left.

Just like another blog I had, also black and white. "I don't get many comments, therefore I suck." and it was promptly deleted. This blog, I don't get many comments, but I cherish the ones I do get. Of course I'd love to get more, (that whole validation thing,) but if more means I have to sacrifice the quality of the comments, or my ability to reply to every one of them, then more wouldn't necessarily be better, now would it? LOL

Once again, the difference is within ME!

Thanks, chickybabe, for helping me find that insight. Now, on to answering your question!

the veggie paparazzo said...

Here are my suggestions for meeting people:

Try craigslist.org for the city closest to where you live. There are often people looking to make friends on there.

Visit meetup.com to see if there are any groups with interests similar to yours in your area.

Find somewhere to volunteer for a cause that you care about. You'll necessarily meet people who are similar to you in some way in the process.

Whether you do it through meetup or not, somehow join a group that's something you care about, whether it's puppies or politics or knitting.

Email everyone in the US that you know and ask those people if they know anyone you should connect with who lives in your area.

If you are so inclined, visit some houses of worship until you find one that clicks with your beliefs. If you are 'spiritual but not religious,' you could try Unitarian churches. If you are an atheist, there may be a group for them in your area!

Host a dinner/dessert/drink party for any group of people you'd like to get to know.

Last . . .

burn up your phone battery and your computer keeping in touch with the people from home whom you're missing in the process.

Oh, and tell your hubby to hug you more often for a while! :)

Kada said...

Hi, Veggie. Sound ideas all. Some I've implemented, some will have to wait a bit. Craiglist, I didn't know they had friends stuff? I thought it was only for buying or swapping stuff. Cool beans. Thanks for the heads up. :)